Not that I would in any way or shape do this to my mom if I was in that far-fetched of a situation (I would apoligize), but if I really wanted to **** her off I would take the car for a day and park in it handicapped spots around town until I had like 20 tickets then sneakily return it.

 

Wow you can do that? I called the cops on this Donkey Dick Taxi driver that keeps parking in a Handicapped spot and Fire No / parking zone, They told me if its on privet property they cant do nothing to him. The management of the property has to site him or have the vehicle towed! I was like then WTF is there a "$500-$1,000 fine" sing there? She then hung up on me LOL!

 

Ah, yes. My favorite. The "I'm ok, you're ok" hippy crap!
How about you set up a big hugging session at 3pm tomorrow?
I'm sorry, but if you are going to do something completely stupid like air your dirty laundry on a public forum, then you deserve all that you get. You will get no sympathy from me when you pay $30K for a car and live in a $20K trailer. Not smart. And, Ike is right. People in glass houses shouldn't throw stones.
To the OP - grow a set. Tell you mommy that she has two options: a) keep the car and make the payments herself or b) sign the title and loan over to you. Even if she picks a, it will be good for you. That way, you will be able to start fresh and start making decisions for yourself.

 

Forget This Thread Just Look At Dominion Video And It Will Be All Better Mmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm What I Can Do With That

 

Wow so much to read.

I don't know her or her situation....but as Ike stated "people in glass houses should not throw stones". If she made horrible stupid decisions in her past or recently she cannot come in a thread and tear someone down for their mistakes and call them a dumbass.

On topic- Talk to your mom and let her know what her options are. Simple as that. I don't think she would want to keep a car she doesn't want and make payments on it.

Good luck to you guy. Take this experience as a lesson learned in life.

 

Ok, remind me again how you're not an *******?

 

Wow, this has gone off topic a little bit.

Can I like sell the car back to the dealership? I think I still owe 19k on it, it has under 12,000 miles, lol.... (then it would be payed off and I can get my dam 06 that I want lol)

 

You could try to trade it in on an 06, but you still have the problem of getting it away from your mom, because you have to have her sign off on anything that involves that car since she has her name on the loan and title.

 

Good idea, and according to KBB, excellent trade in value is worth 19,300

Something I might look into.

 

Like mention before. Give your mom the option of keeping the car, make the payments on it herself and take you off the loan or have her trasffer everything under your name alone.

 

Actually check the original Loan papers and the registration. If it says "their name AND your name" then you need their signature on everything. If it says "their name OR your name" then technically you are both owners of the car and either can do anything they want with it.

At least it's that way in California.

 

I think the best advice here is to offer to give it over to your mom fully so she pays for it or have her transfer it to you so you can make the payments, of course assuming you also pay back the down payment and any other expenses for it that didn't come out of your pocket. A lot of people can't afford to pay for extra vehicles and insurance, so that could be working in your favor.

I don't know about anywhere else for loans, but I asked my mom and none of their loans for anything say "and" or "or" on them. It just lists two names on different lines with no differentiation with "and" or "or." My papers only have my name listed so I don't know if it varies depending on who is doing the paperwork.

I can understand keeping a marriage secret when you go off and do it but I'm not understanding why you would continue to keep it a secret after that point. Probably more of that "personal" stuff we don't know about.

Good luck!!!!

 

this thread is halarious...

let me guess...

"your" bank account that she emptied was really started by HER when you were a child and money that was is there was partially the maney that she put in there for you... you also turned to her to get you a car loan because they dealer refused to give you a loan because you probably just started working and although you thought you had "perfect credit" you really have next to no credit shortly after college. Then you used her for car insurance because its not financially feasable for a young 20 something year old to open a new car insurance account under their own name for an RX8 - but under your parents existing account its about $1k a year cheaper. While your at it, you also used your mother for a place to live - probably for free...


after using her for all of this, you then pissed her off royally so she emptied the bank account, took the car, and kicked your *** out... theres some ancient saying like "don't **** where you sleep"

 

Most reasonable idea yet and everyone wins. I believe the parents have already expressed that they are willing to give up the car. Good.

You've picked out the new one you want, apply for the loan, get approved and review the terms, have her meet you at the dealership with '04 to sign the car over to the dealership.

You drive off in the '06 in your name, the '04 stays behind and it's done.

 

This has been a very entertaining thread, but it seems to me that one major point has been missed in this discussion: What is your new wife telling you to do? If she is taking over the roll of being in charge of you than you had better fall in line with the new management structure. I am sure she needs to start the transfer of your ***** from your mom's purse to hers.

Seriously - swallow some pride (even if your mom won't) be the adult and talk things through - you if you have to listen to some BS along the way, but if you can spend a couple of painful hours without raising your voice you could be through this already and not asking strangers on the Internet for family counseling. Or, call Dr. Phil

 

I had an overbarring, nitpicky, intrusive, slightly crazy mother looking over me when I grew up as well. You know what I did the second I turned 18?

Severed all legally binding ties from her. Financially, educationaly, and socially, I removed myself from her controll. I went and payed my own tuition, rent, bills, and kept myself and my girlfriend fed.

You wouldnt believe how peaceful a family dinner can be with the looming threat of me going to my OWN home at a moments notice.
You say shes getting extra nutty because your about to move out? Mine did too! Know what though? Once your out, and "Im leaving" means more than going to your room and slamming the door, she will think twice about if what shes saying might sepereate you two.

You'll see, when she realizes you have the option of completely cutting her out of your life, she will make a much better effort to remain a part of it.

I can say personally, after being on my own for as long as I have, she respects me as an adult and an individual, not just a kid asking for allowance.

I know from what you've said youve been trying to cut the cord, but really there are no excuses man. If you want to be free of her, than do it. Youre 23, you have a gov. job, you are more able than I was at 18. But you gotta make due on your own, cuz if you come crawling back theyll never take you seriously again.

As for that black 06 youre looking at, everytime an AT is sold, I shead a tear.

 

yes, yes, YES!
i don't know why everyone on here kisses bunnygirl's *** at any opportunity. no, i DO know, her screenname has the word "girl" in it.

she HAS pissed in my cheerios...

when i went searching for a car loan, the first place i went actually said they needed a co-signer. i cant explain why because i've had my own credit cards, school loans, auto insurance, utility bills, rent, blah blah blah for what seems like forever. theres no reason for me to prove how independent i am or how much better i am than you, all i'm saying is it takes time and maturity to build credit, and if you didnt have enough to get a 30k car on your own, maybe you should continue building. all i know is that when the co-signer route was suggested to me, i was furious and went somewhere else. i would NEVER DREAM of asking my mom to co-sign on a loan with me. in my case, the reason is i respect my mom too much to put her in the position of holding my hand through major financial situations, and respect myself too much to continue sucking on her teet. but in your case, i wouldnt have her co-sign because she's ******* nuts. either way its a bad idea, and an immature decision.
what married man with a highly respected government job lives with his mom anyway?
i know its all been said already, maybe im in a bad mood.

 

I'm surprised that this thread has been closed yet.

 

Maybe people are defending Bunnygirl because she's a girl. But that also may be the reason people are insulting her.

If she was a guy and was considering prostitution or already was a prostitute most guys on the forum would be applauding him for getting lots of ***** and getting paid for it.

As for the huggung session at 3 p.m. I can't make it till 6, will that be o.k with you, Eric?

 

No. No, I'd think a guy who was debating prostitution to pay for a car was pretty stupid too.

 

Some tell it like it is...Vote for Ike!

 

this thread is quite entertaining.

Just glad I got in before the lock...

 

even if you pay off the car, they will send you a title WITH BOTH YOUR NAMES ON IT.....thats not a problem if the loan is an "Either Or" (spelling) that means both of you are the primary persons on loan.... if its not and she is the primary and you are 2nd...youll still have a car you own with her name on it.

My advice, sit down and buget, rent, insurance (IN YOUR NAME AT THE RATE YOU CAN GET) car payment (or what it would be if you got a loan, find out the interest rate you can get ect. Food, possibility of having a family in 9 months (or the cost of condoms, birthcontrol, ect....PLEASE USE THEM).

Also before you go and open a bunch of bank accounts, or get the car back.....dont put it in you and your wifes name....JUST YOU.

If all the costs are stuff you can afford, and you are sure you can get the loans, ect....then WORK IT OUT WITH YOUR MOM, and get a new loan and buy the car from her.

STOP TRYING TO GO BEHIND HER BACK AND CONFRONT HER LIKE AN ADULT.

If she really wont work with you...you will have to get a lawyer involved.

Also, just curious.....how long have you and your wife been together....is she gonna be as involved in your life and take tha place of your mom?

I wont knock you for living at home. Im 21, a student, work full time and live at home. I have an rx8.......I chose to live at home cause it allows me to save money, cause when I graduate and get a real job I plan to buy a home.

I pay my way, and other than living in a house with my parents (that I get along with very well) I am pretty independent.

anyway, you have a lot on your plate and need to take care of everything

 

 

Amazing.
This thread is soooo done.
Say goodnight, Gracie.