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06-18-2010, 02:58 PM
06-18-2010, 02:59 PM
Then why is it the one thing/person they should love the most is the one thing they get the most angry at?
Why do men hit women and scream at them, if they love them?
I'm confused...
my parents, my grandparents, my friends: I've seen it over the generations men get angry AT the one they should be loving the most...
Why do men hit women and scream at them, if they love them?
I'm confused...
my parents, my grandparents, my friends: I've seen it over the generations men get angry AT the one they should be loving the most...
I am sure there are several different causes that the reason could fall to. I know for my part, when I'm angry at my wife it's because SHE is the one threatening what I love. Even if it's her. For example, ignoring the signs and letting her blood sugar level drop critically low and then trying to drive. Not paying attention and injuring herself, etc...
Those that are violent drunks certainly don't have the same explanation, I would guess that they are drinking because they are trying to forget something or make it go away, even if thinking they are just "Trying to be happy for a while", and when mentally impaired, they can't distinguish between the surface reasons and the real reasons. Probably similar to how they have trouble distinguishing between the paved road surface and that tree.
I'm saying it's in the right direction, but swinging too far. Like over-correcting on a drift... it's bad.
Those that are violent drunks certainly don't have the same explanation, I would guess that they are drinking because they are trying to forget something or make it go away, even if thinking they are just "Trying to be happy for a while", and when mentally impaired, they can't distinguish between the surface reasons and the real reasons. Probably similar to how they have trouble distinguishing between the paved road surface and that tree.
I'm saying it's in the right direction, but swinging too far. Like over-correcting on a drift... it's bad.
i believe that all people are passionate about certain things in their lives. One of which i know for certain are their beliefs. People who love each other can still have different beliefs and opinions which may conflict but that is where respect comes in to bridge the gap. These are all pillars that need to be in place in a solid relationship.
People grow up differently and people experience different things which cause disagreements. Being different is a beautiful thing in that we will never all be the same but it is also a curse in that we will not always agree. Embracing and understanding these differences are what helps keep some relationships going on strong.
In short - loved ones argue because of differences in belief - resolutions are found when respect is given and received. IMO, when someone says 'they love someone for their mind, body and soul' i always invisioned that this is what they meant.
06-18-2010, 03:04 PM
Some level or taste yes, but you are getting it confused with what the majority of society has already confused Seph. If women push men to be just like them, you have ball-less dudes acting like little pansies, and then you have role reversal which is exactly the problem we have in many relationship dynamics today.
Men and women are not the same, and have different attractions for different reasons. While both should chose a style they like and try to make it look or work well, the desire or personality for certain tastes are different. The attraction is different, men are interested in a woman's looks first where a woman is interested in a man's personality first (usually). This is why women always down through history try to look much better than men even if the guy dresses proper. Face it, women is the more beautiful of the 2 of them. Different characters and attractions bring both together.
Men and women are not the same, and have different attractions for different reasons. While both should chose a style they like and try to make it look or work well, the desire or personality for certain tastes are different. The attraction is different, men are interested in a woman's looks first where a woman is interested in a man's personality first (usually). This is why women always down through history try to look much better than men even if the guy dresses proper. Face it, women is the more beautiful of the 2 of them. Different characters and attractions bring both together.
06-18-2010, 03:10 PM
If a relationship is based on sexual attraction, it will never succeed. Eventually it will fall. It takes work and you have to realize, the attraction will not always be there sexually not because necessarily that the other person doesn't look physically attractive, but because they're not getting their other needs met whether intellectually, emotionally, so forth.
Problem with this society is people cheat because they no longer feel sexually attracted to their partner and move on; that's a cop out. It takes work and the feeling of that attraction alike to feeling of love comes and goes. Don't think in a perfect relationship it's always there, it's not. Sexual attraction should be a result of clicking with the individual, and love being the overseer of the relationship. Without the latter, it's never gonna last and without the first, it's opening doors for them to look elsewhere because of the root cause being their other needs are not met.
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06-18-2010, 03:13 PM
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I actually think that society is too accepting of "extreme", and that "reasonable" and "moderate" is too frequently what is shunned as taboo. Although at the same time, conforming is what is sought after.
For example, last year in a department meeting, we went around the room, everyone telling the department something about themselves and what they like to do in their spare time. 90% of the people said "work on my house or yard". A few were extreme sports fans to the point of actually losing their temper over disputes with others that like opposing teams, and while that generated comments and smiles, more than the yard work, it was accepted. There was shocked silence when I said that I love auto-sports and track racing, and that I was seeking to do more of it. The VP quickly moved on to the next person.
Why is hostile extreme sports fan acceptable but controlled, sanctioned, and heavily regulated autosports not? If I had said "wrenching on my car", that probably would have been more acceptable, though hardly different.
You had to be actually extreme, or love yard work.
My train of thought took a left turn at Albuquerque.... I have no idea where I am any more.
06-18-2010, 04:35 PM
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06-18-2010, 04:56 PM
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06-18-2010, 05:17 PM
What color nuts should i get??
Linky: http://www.evasivemotorsports.com/me...tegory_Code=L1
i'm stuck between purple, green or possibly titanium.
Linky: http://www.evasivemotorsports.com/me...tegory_Code=L1
i'm stuck between purple, green or possibly titanium.
06-18-2010, 05:20 PM
What color nuts should i get??
Linky: http://www.evasivemotorsports.com/me...tegory_Code=L1
i'm stuck between ugly, lame or possibly awesome.
Linky: http://www.evasivemotorsports.com/me...tegory_Code=L1
i'm stuck between ugly, lame or possibly awesome.
06-18-2010, 06:08 PM
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Atilla, assuming you are getting lugs with one locking lug (16 regular, 4 locking) your only choices will be T1r Purple extended locking or Project Kics R40 NeoChro.
I want the T1r purple so I say go for the kics NeoChro! :P
I want the T1r purple so I say go for the kics NeoChro! :P
06-18-2010, 06:49 PM
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i missed a serious convo :[
paris if your looking for lugs jlb motorsports has alot of those, they are local and hook it up, it doesnt hurt that they always have huge inventory in stock
i paid 80 bucks for my caliber 24 project kics were most sites sell em for 159
paris if your looking for lugs jlb motorsports has alot of those, they are local and hook it up, it doesnt hurt that they always have huge inventory in stock
i paid 80 bucks for my caliber 24 project kics were most sites sell em for 159
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So um.... did you see the post about the guy that paid $1,300 for "flashing engine cel and misfire, compression tested fine and all is well after replacing coils, plugs and wires"?
And Another $2,200 for "My RX-8 flooded on my after a 20 min drive and it cost me $2200 to get it running again after plugs, starter, battery, labour, this, that..."
https://www.rx8club.com/showpost.php...9&postcount=96
um...yeah.
And Another $2,200 for "My RX-8 flooded on my after a 20 min drive and it cost me $2200 to get it running again after plugs, starter, battery, labour, this, that..."
https://www.rx8club.com/showpost.php...9&postcount=96
um...yeah.