SoCal Lounge II
01-29-2010, 10:34 AM
#6782
Sephy, okay so.... good news: my Asian crush has been talking to me on facebook on and off. Well yesterday she said your single I'm single let me holla! Can I has your number??? I was like hell yeah! So anyway... she has been confessing to me that she had always liked me. She also said she going to be visiting her sister next month and she said she wants me. Bad news: I'm trying to work things ouy with the ex but theres just no way to make this girl happy and its sucking the life out of me. 8 years is a long time to throw away but is it worth being miserable my who life?
01-29-2010, 10:41 AM
#6784
ooh.....yay! reciprocated crush feelings?! That's the BEST feeling in the world....well besides that anticipated static in the air when you see that one person you care about....but I digress...
8 years is a lot to throw down the drain, but honestly, do you think you could be truly happy with her? Or is it going to be you working at trying to please her for the rest of your lives? A relationship is two sided. Both people need to put the effort in to please each other. That's how harmony and Yin and yang work.
If you feel more of a connection to this crush girl, then go for it. there's a reason why she has come back into your life, whether to test your feelings for nancy, or to give you a chance at happiness with this new girl. I'm not trying to tell you what to do, but you seriously just need to sit somewhere meditative and sort through your feelings, who makes you happier, who makes you feel more like you? You shouldn't have to change your entire personality to please someone, all you have to do is be you...^_^
8 years is a lot to throw down the drain, but honestly, do you think you could be truly happy with her? Or is it going to be you working at trying to please her for the rest of your lives? A relationship is two sided. Both people need to put the effort in to please each other. That's how harmony and Yin and yang work.
If you feel more of a connection to this crush girl, then go for it. there's a reason why she has come back into your life, whether to test your feelings for nancy, or to give you a chance at happiness with this new girl. I'm not trying to tell you what to do, but you seriously just need to sit somewhere meditative and sort through your feelings, who makes you happier, who makes you feel more like you? You shouldn't have to change your entire personality to please someone, all you have to do is be you...^_^
01-29-2010, 10:51 AM
#6786
Jess, thanks. She is always trying to change me and i hate that. From my young and layed back personality and to the way i dress. She wants me to be this fucken old man that im not. I'm young at heart and love to just have fun. My crush on the other hand is the sweetest most understanding person I knew in high school. She is exactly how i remember her. She even told me that if nancy really loved and cared for me she would love me for who I was and not try and change you.
01-29-2010, 10:57 AM
#6787
The crush has been telling me she misses me and she really wants to see me. She looked me up cuz she said she always had this connection with me but was to shy to tell me. I honestly can look back and say this girl made me feel the same way. Even just the thought of her makes me feel like I'm in high school all over agian but this time I shouldnt hold back.
01-29-2010, 10:59 AM
#6788
Yeah, I've been understanding that lately. I tried to make rory not wear his piercings to my company work dinner, when I first found out about it. It took me some time to realize, I'm the one who's with him, not my bosses or my company, if they have a problem with him, too bad...
Many people don't realize that you have to accept a person for who they are, they'll grow when they need to, and personality traits and likes/dislikes, aren't there for you to change. The only thing a person has to change when they're with someone, is within themselves. Are they willing to set aside their own personal benefit for the sake of the one they love? Are they understanding when actions/interactions conflict?
It sounds to me like you've already made you choice Joey
I hope you are truly happy with this reciprocated crush. Nancy sounds like she's not willing to grow up for/with you, which is too bad for her, cause she's missing out. 
Many people don't realize that you have to accept a person for who they are, they'll grow when they need to, and personality traits and likes/dislikes, aren't there for you to change. The only thing a person has to change when they're with someone, is within themselves. Are they willing to set aside their own personal benefit for the sake of the one they love? Are they understanding when actions/interactions conflict?
It sounds to me like you've already made you choice Joey
I hope you are truly happy with this reciprocated crush. Nancy sounds like she's not willing to grow up for/with you, which is too bad for her, cause she's missing out.
silly, are you one of those shallow types? 
I don't think I want to meet you in person if you're going to judge me by my appearance 
How are you? What cha up to?
01-29-2010, 11:22 AM
#6800
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morning peeps!
TGIFF!!!
j03: listen to Sephy, she gives great advice and speaketh the truth.
TGIFF!!!
j03: listen to Sephy, she gives great advice and speaketh the truth.